With all the focus on the mom post-birth, the partners PPD can easily get lost in the mix of things.
This is very prevalent when it comes to the consideration of a change in mood, behavior, stress levels, anxiety, and overall well-being. As vulnerable as the mother can be to experiencing these different symptoms that could be associated with PPD, the partner is just as exposed and capable of going through the same experiences.
This gray area is where more awareness needs to be put as having both parents fully there is critical in establishing a healthy foundation for raising a newborn.
How PPD can affect partners?
PPD can affect partners in various ways, some more noticeable than others and more intense as well.
The bottom line is that partners PPD whether in mom, partner, or both, intense, not intense, one symptom or many should be considered a serious issue that requires immediate addressing before symptoms become long-term and harder to reverse.
When PPD is affecting mom, partners have a bigger role to fill when it comes to supporting. Communication and paying attention to mom are very important in understanding what type of help is needed. Having this type of understanding for the mom will alleviate the weight and stress that she may be feeling because of how PPD can manifest.
As a partner experiencing PPD, it is still important to focus on the mom as she has gone through a life-changing development with bearing a child. However, in order for the partner to live up to their potential they need to also put themselves first to make sure they can show up for their family.
PPD not only has an effect on the individual partner experiencing it but on their partner, baby, family, work, and friends. This is the reason why it is so important in catching it early and seeking help as soon as possible.
Here are some reasons that partners PPD can impact partners:
- Affect the support for mom and baby
- Lower confidence in making decisions for the household
- Isolation from family and friends
- Withdrawal from spouse
- Work being compromised
- Lack of self-care
- Break down of communication with spouse
Risk factors for PPD in partners
There can be predisposed factors and environmental circumstances that increase the chances of PPD in partners. Some of the obvious risk factors that can create a more fertile ground for PPD to manifest are a history of
- Depression and anxiety
- Unhealthy diet
- Poor sleep schedule
- A significant change in hormones
- Poor self-care
When preparing for a child and especially post-birth, these factors should be taken seriously and considered if the partner begins to feel a change in overall well-being. Not that predisposed factors guarantee one to experience PPD, but they certainly increase the chances for it to happen.
A prudent piece of advice for partners that know they have certain risk factors going into starting a family is to have a solid support system in place prior to the baby coming along.
Postpartum support for partners
Seeking support is not a sign of weakness as that is a stigma that unfortunately stops partners from nipping PPD in the bud before it can develop into a serious long-term condition.
As mentioned earlier, this is critical in establishing a support system, especially for partners that may have predisposed factors that increase their chances for PPD.
PPD can be relatable to a sickness where if you don’t treat something like a common cold that could develop into a sinus infection that could in turn spread to your chest that then could transition into bronchitis and on and on.
There is no sign of weakness in taking cold medicine for a common cold, nor should there be any sign of weakness in asking for help with one feels the overwhelming aftermath of PPD.
- Start simple and talk with your partner about what you are going through and put everything out in the open so that you’re not bottling things up only to let them stew longer.
- Do some diligence online and find like-minded groups on social media or other resources that hold space for partners dealing with PPD to talk with other partners.
- Find a therapist or counselor that specializes in PPD to help work through your symptoms and if at a more serious level that could direct you to medicine that would specialize in the specific emotions your battling.
- Hiring a coach would take you on a journey to live the compelling future that you deserve and are worthy of.
- A coach will also share an empathetic connection with you that has a signature program designed to walk you through every step of the way.
These are a great way of just bouncing what’s happening in your world with other people going through the same thing.
Self-help for partners experiencing ppd
Some partners decide to take matters into their own hands and start working on themselves to help shorten the recovery curve and lessen the severity of what they are going through.
Here are some ways that they can go about doing this:
- Talking with your partner and being vulnerable with your feelings
- Setting aside at least 15 minutes a day for some form of exercise
- Taking a walk outside and getting some exposure to the sun
- Eating healthier and drinking lots of water throughout the day
- Spending more time with your family and friends
- Engaging in activities and hobbies that bring you joy
- Practicing meditation, breathing techniques, or journaling
Importance of diagnosis and treatment of PPD in partners
Addressing and identifying the onset symptoms of PPD can not be overstated enough in reducing the severity and duration of this condition. Some partners may think they are just going through normal feelings of stress and anxiety when having a newborn but don’t realize it could be the start of something more serious such as PPD.
By not even talking with your spouse about it and brushing it off, you could be allowing an ugly monster to start taking shape.
Treatment should be available and easily accessed for PPD in partners, but unfortunately, this isn’t a perfect world and there could be a long wait time for therapists and counselors.
This exacerbates the problem and highlights even more the need to seek alternative help such as a coach.
How Caproni Coaching can help you with overcoming PPD as a partner?
Caproni Coaching will show you a compelling future through a signature program that was created from a personal experience of working through PPD.
By sharing an empathetic connection and a friendly hand in breaking through those overwhelming emotions, Caproni Coaching will navigate you into the life you were meant to live. Imagine waking up and being grateful for the day, confident in supporting your family, and filled with love and joy for the life you live.
Come and take the next step with Caproni Coaching and schedule 30 minutes to find out how I can help you whether it be a signature program or another direction to go in.
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